I recently read a very interesting blog about the dynamic of siblings that have a special needs sibling in their family. It was very interesting stuff! Basically the point of it - treat your special needs child as you do your other child. Expect the same, discipline the same, value them the same - makes sense really.
For example, don't allow Ollie to hit without consequences just as I expect the same from Aubrie & Everett. I hope Aubrie and Everett will both go to college, or find a career they fall in love with - I hope the very same for Ollie. (PS - not everyone goes to college and that's ok - proof - my DaddyO - super successful farmer - can't spell for the life of him, but he can do anything!)
I think Ollie will honestly make them more compassionate and accepting of others. Something everyone could use more of. I also think they will learn patience, joy, and extreme love through Ollie Faith. In turn, I think Ollie Faith will learn so much from her big brother & sister - some of it good - some of it is a bit frightening - Everett has A LOT of ornery things in his bag of tools! Standing in the toilet is first on his list of lessons - oh boy I better prepare myself now!
My two sisters have greatly enriched my life. In fact, I can't imagine my life without Abbie & Maggie, my two best friends & partners in crime. I think Ollie will be the same for Aubrie and Everett regardless of her special needs. I think she will be extra-special to them!
I still believe their lives will be typical & we will be a very typical family - well actually we have an awesome family so scratch typical out! I envision a lot of slap fights, but a lot of hugs. A lot more tattling, and a lot more kisses. A lot of time outs & fit throwing, but even more moments of joy & laughter.